like a prophet,this guy told prince what would happen and it actually happened the way he put it,but before then read what he said..
Flt Lieut Holdom (left), 34, is a decorated RAF officer who is Britain's first and only openly transgender military pilot. Here, she reveals how she told colleagues in Anglesey, including Prince William, of her transition three years ago saying 'Next time I work with you, I'll be a woman'
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The Royal Wedding in 2011 was one of Flt Lieut Holdom's first work-related outings after transition. She attended as a woman, accompanied by her wife Wren (pictured together, inset) a doctor with whom she now lives in a lesbian relationship and also revealed that she has frozen her sperm as she speaks movingly of her momentous decision
Today she’s sitting in the quarters she shares with Wren at RAF Chivenor in North Devon.
With their cats, their aquarium, piles of books and a roast cooking in the kitchen, the couple’s home life is a picture of ordinary domestic contentment. It’s one they hope to complete with a baby of their own, born using sperm frozen before Ayla underwent transition.
Yet life was not always so stable. In her first newspaper interview, Flt Lieut Holdom reveals how she came close to killing herself due to social pressure to be a fit and handsome ‘silver-backed gorilla’.
She says: ‘It wasn’t me, it wasn’t honest. From being a teenager I felt a void inside me. It drove me to achieve, to join the military, to fly, to qualify as a search-and-rescue pilot, but it was never, ever enough, because my essential self didn’t correspond to my external image and who could live that kind of lie?
‘I knew I wasn’t a gay man, I couldn’t tick that box. But it is a huge step to ask yourself if you might be transgender because of the stigma attached to it.
'You know you risk being ostracised, ridiculed, belittled and made to feel somehow less human. You are the punchline in a big joke, or worse, still deemed to have a psychological condition.
‘You are considered a freak and you put your career, your family ties and your friendships on the line. That’s why you deny it, why you deny it even to yourself until the need to do something about it is so overwhelming it makes life impossible – truly impossible.’
By impossible the officer means killing herself. She declines to go into detail but she admits she contemplated suicide. ‘My whole life felt empty and worthless and in the end it came down to simple mathematics – either I could transition or I could kill myself.’
That she survived is down to two things: a marriage that was ultimately defined by love and not gender, and the support of the RAF.
in conclusion,The transgender community believes that 40 per cent of people attempt suicide in the years before or during transition. Flt Lieut Holdom was almost one of them.
Like all those in the military, her currency is courage.
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