Tochi and Dami were a beautiful love sight to behold on their wedding day. Even after that day, they spent every waking moment together for many years until they got very busy keeping up with schedules, work, children, career and personal goals. Gradually days would go by without them having time to talk about anything other than the bills, children etc. Their companionship began to wane. They found less and less things in common and their marriage soon became a business relationship. Alas! Tochi and Dami eventually lost the fire of friendship that once defined their admirable relationship
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A lot of marriages have grown to be just like Tochi and Dami’s. Quite a number of couples are enduring instead of enjoying their marriages. I have seen many business-like marriages where strenuous schedules, career and children have come into the picture and serve as relationship roadblock. The couples had let the priority of emotional connection die as they let romance, affection and sexual connection slip away.
Couples that don’t give attention to developing and nurturing their friendship can’t enjoy their marriage. Let’s be candid, what’s marriage without friendship?
Intimate connection with one another should be top priority if you are to enjoy your marriage. Happy marriages seem rare these days, but truth is, it’s not difficult to make a marriage enjoyable if both partners are ready to make the necessary sacrifices, adjustments and invest more emotional energy into their relationship.
Intimate connection with one another should be top priority if you are to enjoy your marriage. Happy marriages seem rare these days, but truth is, it’s not difficult to make a marriage enjoyable if both partners are ready to make the necessary sacrifices, adjustments and invest more emotional energy into their relationship.
I must confess that daily routines have a way of cramping relationships but we must constantly seek ways to fall more in love with each other. Happy and enjoyable marriages are built on a foundation of strong friendship. When couples let any gap go unnoticed in their friendship, negative feelings more easily override positive ones and minor issues easily erupt into major crisis. Where couples are bosom friends, they enjoy their marriage and it takes more serious issues to upset their relationship.
PRACTICAL IDEAS FOR MAINTAINING FRIENDSHIP AND MAKING YOUR MARRIAGE ENJOYABLE
1. What makes your spouse tick?
To bring out the best in your marriage, find out exactly the things that rouses your spouse’ interests. This will definitely increase your affection for each other and make your moments together pleasurable. Though this will require some sacrifice in cases where your interests differ, it sure is worth the effort because of the resultant effect. For instance, having to sit and watch football with a spouse who loves soccer can be a daunting task especially if you have no interest in soccer but if it is important to him then you are better off getting into the game.I know many ladies who began watching football because they realized that was a good and fast way to connect with their spouses.
1. What makes your spouse tick?
To bring out the best in your marriage, find out exactly the things that rouses your spouse’ interests. This will definitely increase your affection for each other and make your moments together pleasurable. Though this will require some sacrifice in cases where your interests differ, it sure is worth the effort because of the resultant effect. For instance, having to sit and watch football with a spouse who loves soccer can be a daunting task especially if you have no interest in soccer but if it is important to him then you are better off getting into the game.I know many ladies who began watching football because they realized that was a good and fast way to connect with their spouses.
2. Spend time just talking
To deepen the bond and enjoy your relationship, you must stay in touch with what’s going on in each other’s life. Get together daily to catch up with each others activities. Discuss your thoughts, share your dreams and engage in meaningful conversations.
To deepen the bond and enjoy your relationship, you must stay in touch with what’s going on in each other’s life. Get together daily to catch up with each others activities. Discuss your thoughts, share your dreams and engage in meaningful conversations.
3. Find activities you both enjoy
Find activities that both of you can enjoy and spend lots of time together doing them. I call this the ‘meeting point.’
Find activities that both of you can enjoy and spend lots of time together doing them. I call this the ‘meeting point.’
4. Try new experiences together
Something new can boost your relationship and give your relationship a fresh lease of life. Use variety and adventure to spice things up. Don’t get boring or run out of exciting ideas. Always come up with things that will set the spark and be full of pleasant surprise.
Something new can boost your relationship and give your relationship a fresh lease of life. Use variety and adventure to spice things up. Don’t get boring or run out of exciting ideas. Always come up with things that will set the spark and be full of pleasant surprise.
5. Be supportive.
Believe in your spouse and show it. It’s lovely to know that your spouse is always by your side through thick and thin. Knowing this just makes you love and cherish each other the more.
Believe in your spouse and show it. It’s lovely to know that your spouse is always by your side through thick and thin. Knowing this just makes you love and cherish each other the more.
4. Make your partner a priority
When you first married, you were each other’s whole world. Be warned! Don’t let your partner slip to the bottom of your priority list. Re introduce the little things, nice things you once did to make him feel special – was it a gentle neck and shoulder rub after a stressful day ? Those little every day things help you stay connected and show you still care.
When you first married, you were each other’s whole world. Be warned! Don’t let your partner slip to the bottom of your priority list. Re introduce the little things, nice things you once did to make him feel special – was it a gentle neck and shoulder rub after a stressful day ? Those little every day things help you stay connected and show you still care.
5. Make time for fun and you’ll get a lot more enjoyment out of life and your marriage.
All work and no play they say makes Jack and Jill dull marriage partners. Sacrifice time from your busy schedules for fun, to relax and enjoy your spouse. Whatever activity you choose, keep in mind that the main objective is to have fun so resist the temptation to fill the time with conversation about children, work, bills and so on. Note that fun doesn’t have be expensive nor cost a lot of money and anything can be fun. This requires some creativity though. You could try in-house dates, cuddling up on the couch watching a movie, eating ice cream and whatever works for you. Play your way to a happier and enjoyable marriage.
All work and no play they say makes Jack and Jill dull marriage partners. Sacrifice time from your busy schedules for fun, to relax and enjoy your spouse. Whatever activity you choose, keep in mind that the main objective is to have fun so resist the temptation to fill the time with conversation about children, work, bills and so on. Note that fun doesn’t have be expensive nor cost a lot of money and anything can be fun. This requires some creativity though. You could try in-house dates, cuddling up on the couch watching a movie, eating ice cream and whatever works for you. Play your way to a happier and enjoyable marriage.
6. Sustain affection and Keep the romance alive
Engage in activities that will fuel your love and affection.Institute a “date night” once a week. Take turns choosing what activity you will do during your date and ensure you do whatever is suggested.
An exciting sexual relationship, spontaneous and regular cuddles, hugs, kisses, holding of hands and the likes help strengthen emotional, physical attraction and connection that every relationship needs. Ensure you keep up your appearance and don’t let yourself go. In addition, spice up the bedroom time as this will add to the enjoyment.
Engage in activities that will fuel your love and affection.Institute a “date night” once a week. Take turns choosing what activity you will do during your date and ensure you do whatever is suggested.
An exciting sexual relationship, spontaneous and regular cuddles, hugs, kisses, holding of hands and the likes help strengthen emotional, physical attraction and connection that every relationship needs. Ensure you keep up your appearance and don’t let yourself go. In addition, spice up the bedroom time as this will add to the enjoyment.
7. Don’t let problems fester
When problems and misunderstanding crop up in your marriage don’t let it fester. Resolve them quickly and learn to let go of small things. Any time you’re tempted to focus on the negative, override the temptation by focusing on the positives – the things you admire and appreciate about your spouse. It could be as ridiculous as ” he massages my feet when am exhausted.” You can’t enjoy your marriage with a heart full of unforgiveness and bitterness.
When problems and misunderstanding crop up in your marriage don’t let it fester. Resolve them quickly and learn to let go of small things. Any time you’re tempted to focus on the negative, override the temptation by focusing on the positives – the things you admire and appreciate about your spouse. It could be as ridiculous as ” he massages my feet when am exhausted.” You can’t enjoy your marriage with a heart full of unforgiveness and bitterness.
8. Love your own life and be happy with yourself
You can’t give what you don’t have. When you are happy with yourself, you’ll be happier, more vibrant with others and everyone around you including your spouse will enjoy your company.
You can’t give what you don’t have. When you are happy with yourself, you’ll be happier, more vibrant with others and everyone around you including your spouse will enjoy your company.
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