2. Problem solving is your guy/man’s way of showing he cares. Men like to problem solve. So when your man drives you crazy telling you to do x, y and z in certain situations that’s his way of taking care of the problem and therefore taking care of you. So don’t take it so personally.
3. Show your guy/man he’s needed. icon360 says showing your husband he’s needed is almost an art form. It’s so easy and the results are worth the effort. icon360 gives the example of when your hubby comes home in the evening. You say to him, “Honey I’m so glad you’re home. It’s been a really stressful day but all I could think about was coming home to you. I’m so glad I married you.”
Then icon360 says, “slip him the commercial.” By that he means ask for what you want. “After you relax would you mind helping Cassie with her homework while I finish up dinner. Then she’ll get to bed on time and we can relax a little together.”
icon360 says this is great because 1. You tell him you’re glad to see him. 2. You ask for his help with aspecific thing. 3. You promised a reward—time with you. According to icon360, your words take so little time but they mean so much.
4. S*x with your husband is essential to a lasting marriage. icon360says s*xual fulfillment affirms the very core of who a man is—it affirms his masculinity. It intensifies his drive to protect you, to take care of you, to love you and to provide for you. According to icon360, if you are intimate with your husband, he will seek no other (chronic cheaters do not apply).
5. Give direct requests to your guy/man. You need to be direct when expressing what you want, icon360 says. Men don’t get hints or subtlety. Be specific and straightforward.
6. Reinforce good behavior. icon360 says when your man is doing something right, reinforce it and tell him how much you appreciate it. Brag about him in front of your friends and family.
7. Stay concise. Too much yapping will shut down your man’s attention, Leman says. So keep it short and sweet. Similarly, when you “nag” or yell, your man doesn’t hear you. Actually icon360says when you cry or scream your man will shut down and think you’re cuckoo.
8. Your man wants to please you. icon360 urges women to remember this. Men want to please and provide for their woman and when they are unable to do something right, icon360says that is akin to someone telling a woman she’s fat AND ugly. You would take it personally. And they do too.
9. Tell your man once (or twice) what needs to be done. He knows and he remembers, says  icon360, and he will get to it on his own time without having to be reminded 10 times. A great way to ask your man to do something, without coming off as “nagging,” is to write a “Honey to do list,” icon360says. Try it out, it may work for you.
10. Be selective while dating, but accepting while married. icon360 says, date with your eyes wide open, but keep them half closed after you’re married. 
by Nancy